Hater / by Maya Angelou

Tulisan yang bagus dari Maya Angelou tentang hal yg sering banget kita alami...mungkin kita sebagai korban...atau pelaku...
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A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all theirtime trying to make you look small so they can look tall

They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is evergood enough

When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters..

That's why you have to be careful with whom you share yourblessings and your dreams, because some folk can't handle seeing

you blessed..

It's dangerous to be like somebody else... If God wanted you to belike somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right

You never know what people have gone through to get what theyhave..

The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but theydon't know my story..

If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, youcan rest assured that the water bill is higher there too

We've all got some haters among us

Some people envy you because you can:
a) Have a relationship with God
b) Light up a room when you walk in
c) Start your own business
d) Tell a man / woman to hit the curb

(if he / she isn't about the right thing)

e) Raise your children without both parents beingin the home

Haters can't stand to see you happy.Haters will never want to see you succeed.

Most of our haters are people who are supposed to beon our side.

How do you handle your undercover haters?

You can handle these haters by:
1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are*(VERY IMPORTANT!!)2
2. Having a purpose to your life: Purpose does notmean having a job. You can have a job and still beunfulfilled.

A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be.

Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.

3. By remembering what you have is by divine

prerogative and not human manipulation.

Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when its yourtime to leave this earth, you 'want' to be able to say, 'I've lived my

life and fulfilled 'my' dreams,... Now I'm ready to go HOME!

When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, 'Don't look atme...Look at Who is in charge of me...'

Don't worry about it, it's not your problem, it's theirs..Just pray for them, that their life can be as fulfilled asyours! Watch out for Haters...BUT most of all don't becomea HATER!

Pengalaman tabrakan beruntun di cipularang...

Kejadian nya pas 3 minggu yang lalu pulang dari resepsi angke di bandung. Waktu itu yg ada di mobil gw, rika, lusy sama wildan yg nyetirin mobil. Pas di km.34 tol cipularang, arus mobil yg tdnya kenceng jadi melambat..ternyata gara2nya ada perbaikan jalan. Mobil gw pun mengikuti arus...jadi pelan. Tiba2, dari arah belakang bunyi rem keceng dan lama bgt..sempet bingung kok tuh bunyi ga berhenti2. Gw yg lg merem2 ngantuk agak was2 juga denger bunyinya...dan bener DUGGGG!!! Mobil innova blkg nabrak gw dgn kencengnya sampe gw nabrak mersi depan...tabrakan beruntun pun terjadi...

Hal pertama yang gw pikirkan adalah...omigod...mas bimo sama mama marah ga yaaa...
Gilee..mobil gw depan belakang rusak paraaah!!!

Untungnya mobil blkg ikut nepi..dan gw sama pemilik mobil mersi depan turun juga..

Alhamdulillah yg nabrak mau tanggung jawab dan untungnya dia punya asuransi mobil...jadi mobil gw dimasukkin k bengkel asuransi nya di ciledug..
Tapiii...itu ga berlaku buat mobil mersi depan. Krn dia org bandung, dia ga mau dibawa ke bengkel jkt, dia mnt ganti rugi on the spot. Sialnya...kita disuruh ikut bayar patungan (pdhal korban)...
Krn ga mau berlarut2 wildan berbaik hati bayarin (serius daaan its not ur fault..at all)

Ini adalah pengalaman pertama mobil gw tabrakan beruntun di jalan tol$ alhamdulillah gw sama anak2 gpp...tp shock nya itu..ga kan lupa...
Tol cipularang itu emang serem bgt...krn beberapa temen gw pernah kecelakaan dan luka parah

Tiga minggu uda berlalu, skrg gw lg di bengkel auto masters utk ngambil mobil sambil nulis blog ini sambil nunggu juga mobil selese ini itu. Phiuuuhh..akhirnya...

Lesson learn: betapa pentingnya asuransi mobil itu...(Semua org jg tau kaleeee)

We call it : Penurunan Nilai ...

Tanpa atau dengan kita sadari...lingkungan sangat berpengaruh dalam merubah diri kita. Di tempat dengan aura positif...energi positif itu juga akan merasuki kita sehingga energi negatif kita ga berkembang. Contoh kecil dan nyata...klo di lingkungan kerja kita dan temen kerja kita suka gosip..kita yang mungkin tadinya ga suka gosip..bisa kebawa ikut ngegosip...walaupun cuma sedikit. Itu cuma contoh kecil. Bagimana klo lingkungan kita jahat...apakah kita juga akan terbawa jadi jahat?

Biasanya kelompok yang lemah akan kalah dan dikucilkan...
...pilihan yang sulit memang...


What Other People Say or Do May Change What You See

Contoh lain...kenapa gw lebih memilih ngekos (tapi saat ini gw ga pny pilihan itu)...karena gw sadar...saat gw ngekos...hidup gw lebih tenang..lebih rileks...lebih positif...ga ada pertengkaran dan hampir ga pernah gw emosi...
Di rumah...konflik sering terjadi..sehingga gw jadi lebih emosian...lebih egois...lebih mikirin diri sendiri...dan yang pasti jadi orang yang sangat menyebalkan...dan saat gw ngekos...semua sifat buruk gw itu hilang (mungkin ga semuanya ya)...karena lingkungan gw juga mendukung gw untuk jadi orang yang positif...

Penurunan nilai...itu adalah hal yang terjadi klo kita berada dalam lingkungan dengan aura negatif.

Manusia sebetulnya diberikan kemampuan untuk menolak segala hal negatif yang ada di sekitarnya. Kita tahu...klo lagi ngomong sama orang tua..ga boleh ketus...ga boleh nada tinggi...ga boleh bilang “ah”. Tapi...saat kita emosi...kita bisa aja bales ngomong dengan nada tinggi...dan klo orang tua kita selalu bernada tinggi dan kita bales yang sama...tanpa disadari itu bisa jadi kebiasaan...
Bagaimana mengatasinya?

Menurut gw...kita perlu pindah ke lingkungan “yang lebih baik” biar penurunan nilai ga terus terjadi. Kaya yang uda gw sebutin diatas...klo di rumah suka berantem...mending ngekos aja...biar konflik ga sering terjadi... Itu berhasil loh...karena setiap gw pulang (biasanya sabtu-minggu..2 minggu sekali) hubungan gw dan keluarga lebih enak.

Klo di tempat kerja kita ngerasa “penurunan nilai” uda terjadi dan kita sadar kita ga bisa “ngerubah” kebiasaan atau faktor x di kantor yang jadi penyebabnya..LEAVE IT! Karena itu hanya menyiksa diri kita dan bahkan bisa membunuh karir kita.

Tapi diatas semua itu...yang pasti “NIAT” kita untuk menjaga nilai positif yang ada di diri kita...HARUS KUAT...karena orang bisa berubah lebih baik kalo orang itu sepenuh hati berusaha untuk menjadi baik...

A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.
“Herm Albright”

Who is sasha lowe...

Unethical, racist and annoyed person who spread her racist tweets in twitter in these following days. She posted up photos on her Twitpic of Asian people got burnt and she put a tag line that says "Asian or monkey?" and "Best kind of monkey faced Asian". Hey…please show your respect!!!
Thanks God, twitter has kicked her out and banned her.

Proud to #Indonesiaunite…good jobs guys….

Just because BAK last nite...

I was dazed…lately I felt emptiness in my heart…
Why its so hard to remove my loneliness and replace it with happiness…
Even He always there...
Yes Mr. Akon you win...
Or it just my so-it-called-drama queen situation or yes…its no more accepted condition…
Is that true…someone who is so perfect needs someone who is perfect also…
If its true…sorry Im not that person
Hello you there…did you got it…
*sigh...

I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.
Bill Cosby

The next 7 days...

Counting down the days...
in the next 7 days I will meet him...
will it be my final destination
or only one of my love live story
dont know...and dont want too hope...

let it be
let it go with the flow...

till we meet then...

Simply Chicks: Because others couldn't handle us as a sister

Reading nanda’s email yesterday was very touched. She showed us how precious simply for her and for each of us. I may not squeeze my eyes, i may not let my tears drop after I read it, but one for sure I have let my Simply leaved their footprints in my heart.

I realize that everything has changed. We dont have much time together just like the old time.


You're...
My Friend,
my companion,
through good times and bad
my friend, my buddy,
through happy and sad,
beside me you stand,
beside me you walk,
you're there to listen,
you're there to talk,
with happiness, with smiles,
with pain and tears,
I know you'll be there,
throughout the years!

Being so it called stubborn-yet-so-sensitive and hothead friend, make me a seamy woman. But...because of them...I can control my self (sometimes). They dont expect me to be perfect, but they expect me to be a good person. They always lend a hand in times of help and lending a shoulder for me to cry on. They will not conceal if they think I'm wrong, in fact they will show me or maybe slap me so that I can wake up from so-it-called my drama queen situation yet not that hard to be accepted condition.

I can fight over the most stupid things and be go back to normal after 5 mins with them. They can make me smile without trying. When I have “in” jokes that no one else can get, only them can find it as funny as ever.

Wherever and whatever condition will I get in, I do believe...I will always have my simply around me.


"Everyone hears what you say. Friends listen to what you say. Best friends listen to what you don't say."

Thanks simply for being my best friends….

Friendship – Fraternity – Fellowship...may always be with us

Dozen of kisses for my SC